Tuesday, April 26, 2016

So here's why I reported you to Facebook...#NOH8 #StandWithTarget

I mean...

Image via The San Diego LGBT Community Center
I really love Facebook. It makes me so happy to check in every day with my family and friends all over the world and get a glimpse of how we're all doing. I am grateful when I see friends sharing their struggles, since it gives me an opportunity to say "Hey, I'm here for you." instead of finding out later that they have been suffering through something in silence.

Another thing I love about my Facebook feed is that it gives me a window into the worldviews of the people in my life. Some are diametrically opposed to mine, a complete 180, and I appreciate how respectfully we share our beliefs with each other. Even in this vitriolic election season, we've all managed to keep it classy.

So here's why I reported you to Facebook.

As most of us probably know, recently Target (aka The Happiest Place on Earth) introduced a groundbreaking policy allowing transgendered patrons and employees to use the Target restrooms according to the gender with which they identify, not the gender on their birth certificate. Now, why such a no-brainer is truly "groundbreaking" is another topic for another day. This action, which has sparked a minor boycott, made barely a ripple on my Facebook feed, except for people mentioning how much more they will enjoy shopping at Target.

A few people, though, didn't see it that way. I sort of get it, not everyone grew up among as much diversity as I did, and things they don't understand are scary to them. For the most part, such people's posts on the subject fell along the lines of, "I'm not sure what this means. Does it affect me?"

But a couple of people went beyond that. Like way beyond. 

It started with comments like, "Better make sure I use the bathroom before I go to Target!", which sounded like something straight of the The Help. Then it progressed to comments expressing fear "as a parent" for the "safety" of kids who might need the potty at the Big Red Dot. Uh-huh. I've never taken kindly to people using their kids as a human shield against civil rights. 

Let's be honest, this is not about your kids, it's clearly about you. Your kids are not going to know, or care, what gender is on anyone's birth certificate unless you show them how to. It reminds me of that song from South Pacific:

Did I seriously just reference a Broadway musical? Yikes, I must have really strong feeling about this!

A few years ago I had the honor of interviewing a support group for Latino parents of LGBTQIA youth at The Center (in my neighborhood of Hillcrest here in San Diego) for an article I'd been assigned to write for Mamiverse on LGBT acceptance among Latinos. The Center had produced a deeply moving documentary, Mi Familia, which chronicles the struggle of Latino families of LGBT youth as they fight for the children they love against medical prejudice, hate crime and social backlash. They deal with unfair and patently untrue stereotypes every day. 

Stereotypes like the one in your post, which I reported to Facebook. 

Your post used a frankly disgusting cartoon to assert that our children are somehow in greater danger of being molested because of Target's bathroom policy. 

Really? You really think a transgendered person is the same thing as a pedophile? 

This comment was made by someone, by the way, who had previously expressed outrage over Donald Trump describing all Mexicans as murdering, drug-dealing, rapists. That was beyond the pale, but somehow "transgender=hide your kids" was not? God made transgender people, gay people, brown people, white people...all kinds of people. You know why? Because God is not a bigot.

I was really proud to explain to my kids what this policy was all about. How it is a small, important step for human rights. I am proud to take them shopping with me in Target and yes, proud to let them share the bathroom with transgender female patrons and employees. 

But I was outraged and ashamed at the prospect that they would see your post.

And that's why I reported you to Facebook. In case you're wondering.

Even though it was a tiny gesture, it wasn't an easy one. And I decided to write about it because I figured I can't be the only one feeling conflicted about reporting this kind of hate speech from people they love on Facebook. Change has to start somewhere. 

Below is the Mi Familia documentary in it's entirety. If you can honestly see the pain in the eyes of these mothers and not be moved to #StandWithTarget, then please just unfriend and unfollow me now.

Wishing you love and #NOH8 with extra cheese-
Nacho Mama

Saturday, March 12, 2016

News Fatigue? This looks like a job for SALSA KIDS! #salsakids #thesalsacure

Oh, dear. I know, I'm experiencing it, too.

News Fatigue.
Me after watching cable news.
It's gotten pretty ugly out there, hasn't it? I don't care how positive a person you are, enough exposure to this stuff can get you so riled up, bummed out and let down that it can start to seem like there's nothing any of us can do to make this world a better place. 

I feel you. 

These are the times when I need to be reminded that one light heart outshines a thousand dark ones. When I need to see, really see, that it's infinitely more powerful to inspire someone's joy than it is to light a fire under their anger. 


That's right. I'm pulling out the big guns here, people. Just try and keep a straight face and a still booty while these children blow you away with the unbridled, fantastic tripping of the light that is...

Feast your eyes..and your SOUL!
The cuteness! The footwork! THE FIRE!
Come on! What are you, made of stone?!
SALSA KIDS! Bringing people together all over the world.
SALSA KIDS! There's no one they can't help. 

Don't believe me? Oh, ye of little faith. Don't you see? 

SALSA KIDS aren't just here to help you and me.


Feel free to replay as often as necessary. You feel better now, right?
Me after SALSA KIDS!
I'm pretty sure that when the Divine Gloria Estefan said, "The Rhythm Is Gonna Get You" she was talking about SALSA KIDS!

SALSA KIDS! Here to recharge our batteries so we can all live to fight News Fatigue another day.


Wishing you love with extra cheese,
Nacho Mama

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Wednesday, February 3, 2016

Hey! I recorded a PODCAST!

No, really!

Hello, dear ones. How is your 2016 going? One BIG goal I had set for this year is to FINALLY get back to Nacho Mama's Podcast (still available on iTunes and Stitcher). Not that I haven't been podcasting at all, of course I've been very active over at the Book Versus Movie podcast my dear friend Margo D (@BrooklynFitChik) and I have been producing. But I have sorely missed doing Nacho Mama's Podcast-so I determined to find a way to get it broadcast.

I'm so glad to be back! One of the main reasons I've wanted to resurrect the podcast is that there are so many lovely podcasts I want to share with you. The two I mention in this episode are:

The Dependent Independent
The Fat Father Chronicles

And there will be more! Plus I can finally answer a few of the questions you all have been asking in my absence.

In the meantime...is there anything else you all would like to know? Seriously, I'd love to answer your questions on the air so send 'em right along, folks. You can ask in the comments, tweet me @shesnachomama or email me ShesNachoMama@yahoo.com.

And let me know how you are! I've missed you. What are some of YOUR 2016 goals?

Wishing you love with extra cheese-
Nacho Mama

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Saturday, December 12, 2015

UPDATE: Breast Thermogram Results with Video

btw-the scan in this photo? NOT me!
Because you were dying to know, right?


All is good in Boobville. I received a lengthy report with lots of thermographic images of my chest and torso (some of which are in the video below) and everything looks good. No estrogen dominance, no suspicious hotspots. HOWEVER...they suggested giving up underwire bras because of the massive compression they seemed to be causing.

Also...my digestion. No bueno. Again, the photo is in the video, but let's just say there was a potential Elvis situation going on there.

Too soon?

I've been working on getting things, er, going in the digestion department, so GO ME (I couldn't resist).

I must say, I am really noticing a difference since changing to non-wire bras. I didn't know I was feeling short of breath by the end of the day, but I guess I was! Yikes! Stay tuned for a bra review.

Here's my video giving a few more details on the thermography experience and pictures.

In other news, I am really, truly working on bringing back the podcast. Really! In addition to launching my coaching business, I also recently became a Certified David Wolfe Nutritionist, so there will be much to discuss.

What's new with all of YOU? Have any health goals for 2016? Do tell!

Wishing you love with extra cheese-
Nacho Mama